How many "next time" do you have?

Actually this is one email I got very long ago.. but it never failed to touch me every time i read it.. Have you ever wonder what are the important things in your life? I know $$ is definitely one of it.. Ya.. I know, without $$ how can we survive.. but above that.. have you ever wonder, why are we working so hard for money? I mean.. you did realised that although you might be earning billions and trillions of $$ you are just a worker for $$ right? you are still chasing $$ instead of letting $$ chasing you right? and have you ever pause for once and wonder.. why are you wrking so hard? have you realised all the opportunity lost that you forgo because you are way too busy chasing after $$?

For your info, it's almost Chinese New Year d.. and usually .. if you realised.. you will somehow hear lots of sad news.. don't ask me why.. because I have no answer to that.. but what I can tell you is.. read this story carefully.. and maybe you will realised what you missed out.. and maybe it's time for you to do something? Maybe you will remember tis one thing that are very much important and relevant to our life that you have somehow forgotten..

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結婚了廿一年後，我發現了一種別出心裁的方法,可以讓愛的火花永保新鮮。
不久以前 ，我和另一位女士約會，其實那還是我妻子的主意，有一天她說：「我知道妳很愛她。」我很驚訝，立刻爭辯說：「但我愛的是妳呀！」「我知道，但你也愛她呀！」
我妻子要我去看的女士是我的母親。她已經寡居了十九年，然而我忙碌的工作和身為二個孩子父親的責任，令我分身乏術，以致很少有時間和她相聚。

那晚，我打電話給她，邀約她第二天和我一起吃晚餐和看電影。
「怎麼了，你還好嗎？」她問道。母親是那種會認為晚上那麼晚打電話，又突然邀約她，一定不會有什麼好事的人。「我想如果有機會和妳單獨約會，一定很有意思。」我回答。
她想了一會兒，然後說：「我非常樂意。」

那個星期五下班以後，我開車去接她時，心裡有一點緊張,因為從未嚐試過這樣的約會。當我到達她家時，我看她對這樣的約會，似乎也有一點緊張。她在門內等著，身上穿著大衣，裡面那件禮服
還是最後一次慶祝結婚紀念日所穿的呢！她的頭髮還特意捲了一下，臉上的微笑像天使一般。
上了車後，她得意洋洋地說：「我告訴我的朋友，我要和我的兒子外出約會，他們都好羨慕，迫不及待要聽聽我們約會的情形。」我們去一家雖不豪華，但十分雅致，溫暖舒適的餐廳。
我母親挽住我的臂彎，好像第一夫人一般。

入座以後，我必須幫她看菜單點菜，因為她的眼睛現在只有大的字才看得見。用餐一半時，我抬起頭來，看到母親正在凝視我，嘴角帶著懷舊的笑容說：「記得當你小時候，總是我為你看菜單的。」「那現在妳正好可以休息，輪到我來為妳服務了。」我回答。
一面享用晚餐，我們一面聊天，聊得很愉快，
談了許多最近幾年來，各自生命中的一些事。我們聊得太久了，所以趕不上電影。當我送她回到家門口，她說「我要再和你一起外出，但下次讓我作東好嗎？」我答應了。

回家後，妻子問我：「你的晚餐約會如何？」
「非常有意思，比我想像的好多了！」 ~我回答。
'
幾天以後，母親因心臟病猝發而去世。這事發生得太突然了，
讓我完全措手不及。不久以後，我收到一封信，裡面是上次我和母親約會的那家餐館的一張收據，上面有一張字條寫著：「我已先付了賬，因為我確定自己不可能再有機會去了，但我還是付了兩人份的賬──你和你的妻子。
你絕對想不到那一晚的約會對我有多大的意義，我愛你。」

從那一刻起，我深深體會，一定要及時說：
「我愛你」，並且要常常撥出時間給我們所愛的人。
世上沒有任何事比自然如來因緣和你的家庭更重要
多花時間和他們在一起，因為這事絕不能拖延到「以後有時間再說 ...」。
「樹欲靜而風不止，子欲養而親不待」 是人生一大憾事。
~{ 愛無分 ,愛有份}~
不要等到爱得太迟，珍惜现在。祝您辛福！
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After get marriaged for twenty-one years, i found an unique way to refresh my love life.
Not long ago, I was going to date with a lady, and the idea came from my wife

One day my wife said: I know u love her. I was shocked: The one I love is you! She said: I know, but u love her too.
The lady that my wife asked me to visit was my mother.
She was alone for nineteen years, however, I was busy with my job and my children, so I was less likely to visit her.

The night, i called her, invited her to have a dinner and movie with me at the second day.
' What happen? Are u alright?', she asked.
I answered: I was just thinking that if I have chance to date with u alone, it sure be very interesting.

After a while, she said: I do.
The Friday came after i knock off from my worked, I fetched her at her home, felt like a little bit nervous.
Because I had never been to a date with my mom before.
When I reached her house, I found that she seems a little bit nervous too.
She was in her suite, which she wore during her last wedding anniversary with my dad, waiting for me in her house.

She made her hair specially, smiling like an angel.
When she get into my car, she proudly said: all my friends were jealous at me when they know that i'm gonna dating with my son.
We went to a restaurant which was not expensive but with warmth and cozy environment.
My mom hold my hand as she was the wife of a president.
After getting to her seat, I help her to order her food,
Because she only can read the big capital words.，
When we were eating, I found she was staring at me,
She smile and said: I remembered that during yr childhood, I always make the order for u. I answered: then now is yr chance to take a rest and let me to serve u.
We keep talking during our dinner,。Sharing about our life and some special things happening these few years.

We talked for very long time until we missed the movie. When I fetched her back to her house,
She asked: I'd like to date with u next time, but please let me pay the bill next time. I agreed.
When I back to my home, my wife asked: how's yr date with yr mom?
' It was interesting and fun, over my expectation', I answered.

Few days later, my mom passed away due to heart failure. The thing happened in an unexpected manner,
I wasn't prepared for it at all.
Soon after this, I received a letter, there are a receipt of the restaurant that I dated with my mom, and a message: I already paid the bill for our next date, even though I know I'd probably won't have chance to date with u anymore, I still pay the bill for two persons: u and yr wife. U will never know how meaningful the date to me, I love U.

At the moment, I realized: we must always spare our precious time to our beloved, and told them u love them before it is too late.

There is nothing more important than yr family, spend more time with them before it is too late.

Don't make any regret in our life.
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Cherish people around you while you can.. there might be a "next time" for some people.. but definitely not to all.. I'm not cursing you but simply.. a gentle reminder .. won't wan you to be the next one to say " If only I know.. I would have... but now.. it's too late d".. right?